Marriage is hard work!

Every couple has that one fight they have over and over. OK… not all, but many. Ours came up again tonight. I’m not going to get into the details because, frankly, they don’t matter. What matters is that I’m really hurt. I’m sitting here seriously contemplating if my husband and I should stay married. The issue which comes up is huge and really painful. I … Continue reading Marriage is hard work!

I married a Saint! St. Stephen of grouchy kittens.

Gotta say, it’s been a Hell of a day!!! I woke up in such a good mood this morning. Things felt manageable and like life was going back to normal. Then I got out of bed. LMAO Well… not that fast, pretty damn quickly things shifted really bad. After a few hours, I’m pretty much back on track to things feeling ok again. I haven’t … Continue reading I married a Saint! St. Stephen of grouchy kittens.

Self-Esteem & Negative Feedback

“Fools’ names & faces appear in public places” is a saying I grew up hearing from my mother. The saying has many good lessons in it. In my family, there was also an often spoken message of don’t try, because you may fail and make a fool of yourself. The whole message became nicely wrapped up in this little phrase. Good and bad connotations alike. … Continue reading Self-Esteem & Negative Feedback

Mental Illness Isn’t Who You Are!!

I spent 15 years of my life working in social rehabilation programs with individuals carrying mental health diagnoses which are deemed major and persistent. Schizophrenia, Bipolar D/O, Personality disorders to name a few. The idea with these diagnoses is that they never go away. It’s a lifelong illness. The goal of social rehabilitation is to help those of us with such mental illnesses live the … Continue reading Mental Illness Isn’t Who You Are!!

Boundaries

Growing up in the family I did, boundaries were essentially non-existent. At least mine weren’t. I wasn’t allowed to speak for myself. My thoughts and feelings were deemed unimportant or outright wrong. I remember my mom and older brother deciding for me that I wasn’t going to a 4 year college right out high school as I sat there listening to them decide my life … Continue reading Boundaries