Today I want to talk about morals and values. We all have them and they’re different for each of us. That’s really OK. The part I want to talk about is when you allow people into your life whose morals and values don’t align with yours. It’s a recipe for disaster. I’m very clear about my morals and expectations. I have exceedingly high standards for … Continue reading Friendship, Values & Red Flags
I’ve always had lots of friends. I’ve never been what one would call “popular”, but I always had lots of friends. I was never lost for a friend to see a movie with or whatever activity I was in the mood for. On the rare occasion everyone was busy, I have been content with my own company for many, many years. Marrying into an abusive … Continue reading Friendship
Last night I was talking to my bestie and he was telling me how disgusting his body is on pretty much every level. He wasn’t doing a little complain session about the 5 pounds he put on or the little changes from age that we all occasionally bitch about. No, deep down he really sees himself this way. It breaks my heart knowing that’s what … Continue reading I Wish You Saw What I See
I learned some really hard life lessons in my last marriage. I was in an abusive relationship. Of course the abuse was bad and changed me in dramatic ways. I was forced to grow and change in the process of leaving the relationship and recovering from it. One of the hardest things I had to face was that my friends and loved ones saw what … Continue reading Life Lessons
So many people have the expectation that others will be gentle with their feelings and pussy foot around an issue. There’s also an expectation many people have that everything will be handled in private. I’m not wired that way. It’s not a bad thing. The same supervisor that went through the hurt feelings aren’t always your fault alone routine with me, also had a similar … Continue reading Blunt isn’t always bad
When I first joined Facebook I did what everyone did…. look up old friends, classmates, exs, co-workers, distant relatives. Curiosity. Hey, I wonder whatever happened to (blank)? I stumbled across my very first boyfriend. Let’s call him, Todd. He gave me a paragraph update on his life. Brief, polite. Ending with “My wife and I don’t allow friends with ex’s in our relationship”. I was … Continue reading Ex’s are ex’s for a reason!
Expectations. I’m going to share with you a philosophy I try to live by when it comes to expectations. Expectations are the breeding grounds of resentment. With that said… please, go on and read about my expectations of self and others in TMI Tuesday. 😉 1. What makes you insecure? After years of working on myself, growing, therapy and general life experience, I can say … Continue reading T.M.I. Tuesday
Today has been a shitshow of epic proportions! I’ve put on my Domme suit and handled business in the only way some people cooperate with… sheer force! I got done what I needed to… at least a beginning. I now have an idea of what I’m looking at and it’s bad. Really bad!!! The journey has just begun, but at least it’s begun. It’s always … Continue reading Sweet Distraction!
Just a few minutes ago, I got a message from a dear friend that his son was found dead today of a drug overdose. Earlier this week he found out the son was using again. My heart reaches out in ways I can hardly put to words. The loss of a child and to addiction is about the saddest combination I can think of. I … Continue reading Overdose
I’m sitting on the sofa curled up like a cat with sweat dripping down the back of my legs and pooling in the bend of my knees. Feels awful! The position is comfy, my favorite. Country ribs are simmering on the stove in a kitten’s kitchen special spice blend. Smells so good! Can’t wait to dig in. When will Daddy wake up? *giggling* Master bathroom … Continue reading As the heat breaks