Staying Put

If you’ve been reading my blog for any length of time you know that we’ve been plagued by issues with our house for about 2 years now. Bad trustee, struggle with lawyers to deal with trustee, water main burst, flooding, battling the insurance company, no kitchen for over a year, no floors, no baseboards…. the list goes on and on. It felt undoable and never … Continue reading Staying Put

Reality Punch in the Face

The last couple of days I’ve been especially honest in my reactions to people. I am finding more and more that I am most certainly my mother’s daughter! She was loved and respected by many… and intensely disliked by others. Daddy described my style of communication as a reality punch in the face earlier today. I tend to agree. There are those who love it … Continue reading Reality Punch in the Face

Blunt isn’t always bad

So many people have the expectation that others will be gentle with their feelings and pussy foot around an issue. There’s also an expectation many people have that everything will be handled in private. I’m not wired that way. It’s not a bad thing. The same supervisor that went through the hurt feelings aren’t always your fault alone routine with me, also had a similar … Continue reading Blunt isn’t always bad

Gentle Reminder of Boundaries

Hello friends 🙂 It’s been a while since I’ve written an update on our home. Today, 41 days after the hot water pipe burst in the slab under the house, all of our walls are in tact… painted… and wait for it… the downstairs bathroom is fully functional. More work to be done… quite a bit more, but it feels hopeful and manageable. Yesterday I … Continue reading Gentle Reminder of Boundaries

“The Talk” (aka: BDSM Checklist)

Wednesday night after a nice steak dinner and a couple cocktails out, Daddy and i went over our BDSM/kink checklists together. Eye opening indeed. 😉 For the most part there weren’t any shocks for Him where my kinks and interests lie. i’m much more open to talking about, thinking about, dissecting my wants, likes, needs than He is. He’s a doer and not so much … Continue reading “The Talk” (aka: BDSM Checklist)

Submission: Day 18

DAY 18:  Very often the stereotype of submission is that the submissive person loses the ability to have an opinion. While that clearly isn’t true except in the absolute rarest of occasions, how does communication factor into your submission and how do you communicate your desires and needs? i disagree that a sub loses the ability to have an opinion at any time. A submissive’s brain … Continue reading Submission: Day 18


Growing up in the family I did, boundaries were essentially non-existent. At least mine weren’t. I wasn’t allowed to speak for myself. My thoughts and feelings were deemed unimportant or outright wrong. I remember my mom and older brother deciding for me that I wasn’t going to a 4 year college right out high school as I sat there listening to them decide my life … Continue reading Boundaries