Yesterday I had a man request to be my submissive. It went horribly wrong on his part. Let me tell you why…
I am a human being, not a kink dispenser! If you want an immediate relationship or feel it’s appropriate to ask for sexual favors without taking time to get to know me, HIRE A PROFESSIONAL DOMME!
No means no. No, I won’t be your Domme is extremely clear. No, I am not going to participate in online play with you is just as clear. Pushing for dominant behavior from someone who has clearly stated no is a huge red flag and boundary violation. No means no! Gender and which side of the slash make no difference.
He blocked me immediately after I called out his inappropriate behavior.
Here is the ideal outcome of our first conversation.
Him: I’d like you to be my Domme.
Me: No. I’m not open for anything aside from platonic friendship.
Him: OK. Thank you for your time.
I’d have seen him as a stereotypical guy on Fet looking to get his rocks off rather than a boundary pushing asshole.