As always, I’m astounded by the people who think they are qualified to be sex educators. As sexual creatures, we can all share our experience, tips and tricks and information we have gleaned from reputable sources. A Master’s Degree in sex education is required to actually educate others and know all the ins and outs (pun intended) of sexuality and all that goes with it. One of Daddy’s best friends and his wife happen to be BDSM sex educators.

Why the title of this post, you ask? Here it is. I read a post a few days ago by a self-proclaimed sex educator sharing their opinion that there is no room for anti-LGBTQIA+ sentiments within the BDSM community because it’s hypocritical based on the fact that BDSM started in the gay leather scene. As a cisgender bisexual woman, I will never agree with homophobic attitudes in any of their variations. The lack of knowledge about BDSM, its’ history and origins, not to mention common sense was staggering for one teaching about BDSM and sexuality.

Let’s start with the basics. Human beings have procreated since the dawn of man meaning that nothing sexual is new. I don’t mean to be Captain Obvious, but….. From my brief research, the earliest documentation of BDSM dates back to ancient Mesopotamia with the Goddess Inanna flogging Her followers to excite them into ecstatic dance in Her honor. The Roman Cesear Caligula was well known for his sexual proclivities. There are descriptions of various BDSM activities in the Kama Sutra. Sadism got it’s name in honor of the French philosopher, Marquis de Sade, who lived from 1740-1814. Need I say more? There is nothing new about BDSM or inherently homosexual about it.

The formal BDSM scene has changed dramatically over the last 53 years, but our expression of deviant sexuality continues the same as it has since the first man grabbed a woman by the hair to keep our species alive and kinky.