Anyone who reads my blog knows that Daddy and I love fur. No shame here or guilty pleasure status. It’s one of those things we both take pleasure in looking at, wearing and owning. It passes into our kink list as well.
I have a handful of real fur pieces which delight me to no end and I wear them on the rare occasions it’s cold enough. Going to San Francisco in March was one of those. We had a fantastic time, by the way.
Judgment comes in many forms. The most common is the attitude that I’m an awful human being for wearing fur. These statements usually come from soneone wearing leather shoes, a leather belt and carrying a gorgeous lether handbag. The irony never escapes me.
Daddy and I were peering in the window of a modern art gallery marveling at the creativity when some woman with 3 teenagers walked by and snarked to her kids about my jacket. The comments were along the lines of me showing off that I have more money than I know what to do with.
I turned around quickly looking at the family. The mom was far too young have 3 kids those ages. She started young! Everything about the family told me that they were struggling a bit. Yet each member of the family was wearing several hundred dollar name brand tennis shoes.
She looked at me assuming that I’m wealthy and showing off. I looked at her and saw a single mom that made poor life choices starting way too young and spending her money poorly. Fact of the matter is that neither of us know the truth about the other.
Judgments and assumptions are fun like that. We jump to conclusions about other people based on our ideals and values. Obviously, we both saw the other as less than desireable at first glance. Both of us were quick to judge.
I wear what makes me happy. We worked hard to get our jackets. I’m immensely proud of that fur jacket each and every time I wear it. Yes, wearing fur makes me a moving target for judgment. I’m well aware. I hope that in the future when I hear comments like that I can take them in stride and just smile rather than mentally defend my choices and judge those making the comments. I handled the situation with dignity and grace… now to get my thoughts there, too.