Can we stop slut shaming women?!

I can’t say I’ve never heard slut shaming from a man. Of course it happens. Where you hear it the most is from other women. Can we STOP!?!?!? Sexuality is part of human existence and totally natural. Do we have to moralize everything, criticize and shame women who express theirs differently or more freely?!

I’m one of those women who just oozes sex appeal. I always have. It’s not how I dress or act, it’s part of who I am. I can run to the hardware store in my t-shirt and sweats with a ball cap on my head without a shower that morning and men still take notice. I can’t help it. There are lots and lots of women like that!! I honestly don’t get it, but hey… it’s my lot in life.

I’ve had a high sex drive all my life. When I’ve been single I reclaimed slut as badge of honor. I don’t feel the need to adhere to the rules of what “good girls” do and don’t do. No, I wasn’t out picking up guys in bars every night and a total whore, but I was free with sex. There’s nothing wrong with that so long as everyone is clear on what they’re doing, it’s consensual and SAFE. When I met the right guy I always settled down into monogamy. There have always been many, many women in my life ready to tell me I’m a sex addict and my sexuality is inappropriate and wrong. If I were a man, I highly doubt my guy friends would be saying the same thing!!!!

I’ve been shamed for dressing sexy, drawing attention to myself, being cornered by men and even been victim blamed for being raped based on what I look like and how I dress. The famous line from Who Framed Roger Rabbit rings in my head, “I can’t help how I’m drawn” (Jessica Rabbit) Short skirts and cleavage don’t mean you’re looking for a man, it means you’re comfortable in your own skin and dressing to make yourself feel good!

Since Daddy and I have been going out on dates there have been far too many incidents of men staring me down, hitting on me with Him standing right there, women glaring at me for how their husbands look at me and making them move to a different seat. Bottom line is that I’m not paying attention to any of these men! Not one of them. I’m not asking for their attention, nor do I really want it.

What brings this about tonight is reading a post about a woman whose sexy pics on Instagram set her vanilla life on fire because some local kids got past the adult content settings. The Karens of her neighborhood went to work shaming her and gossiping and working to tear her apart. It outrages me!!! She’s a beautiful woman who was having fun at a Halloween party and posted pictures to her account with adult settings. I’ve seen more obscene images on prime time TV. Good lord, she showed her breasts with covered nipples! The world is coming to an end!!! Karens unite to humiliate this woman for being comfortable with her sexuality!!

I’m tired of hearing women tear one another apart over how they look. How they dress. Being modest is a choice, not a necessity! Getting attention for what you look like isn’t a crime. Getting attention for what you look like isn’t always a choice!! Being comfortable in your body and being comfortable with your sexuality is a beautiful thing! How about we start breaking the confines of the prudish society we live in one person at a time. Celebrate the beauty and sexuality of those who have broken free. Support each other in the journey to do so.

I’m seeing so much slut shaming at the moment that it’s hard to deal with. Women setting up FanOnly accounts for their photos and videos makes them whores. No, it means they’re taking control over who can see their stuff and under what circumstances. Sharing videos and photos doesn’t make you a slut, it’s a fair expression of your sexuality.

There’s a big long list of egregious acts in this area. Ladies, can we simply stop judging one another and support each other as women?!

3 thoughts on “Can we stop slut shaming women?!

  1. Hey Succulent,
    The quote is, “I’m not bad, I’m just drawn that way..” and I suppose the same holds true with you. You can’t help the way you are. This you should not be persecuted for. Not should your husband be placed in a position to have to defend you to anyone. From a man’s perspective, I can see how this is attractive to some. But why even dressed in sweatpants should you have to fend off people because you exude a certain allure. I don’t know. I have hardly ever had that problem. I hope it all works out for you.

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    1. Thank you for correcting the quote. lol Thank you for the support. I have worked it out myself to a point where I’ve learned to deal with the men. Mostly, I’m angry at women for being bitches! So many don’t own their sexuality and are really jealous and judgmental of women who are comfortable in their own skin. I lost a couple of good friends over this topic. It’s sad.

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