I read a post on FetLife a few minutes ago by a 21 year old man who claims to have 7 years experience as a Cg offering his expertise to those new in the community with questions. Yes, I told him my opinion! I’m not just ranting on here.
We all know the stereotypes and negative assumptions associated with Cg/l and DDLG dynamics. Pedophiles, kids engaged in unhealthy sex, blah, blah, blah. I don’t need to say more.
First off, this young man is publically telling people that he was engaged in BDSM relationships at 14. The kink community does not and will never say it’s A-OK to get involved in BDSM as a child. Yes, 14 is still a child!!! I’m not talking solely legal age, brain development, physically and every aspect of being a child. He’s telling the world that Cg/l is exactly what we’re fighting to say we’re not!
Teenagers have sex all the time and have since the dawn of mankind. There is a huge difference between having sex, exploring and entering in BDSM relationships and Cg/l dynamics. Before you can be a Cg or a little in a relationship you have to literally grow up first!!!
A 14 or 15 year old “Cg” is still being literally parented by an actual adult.
Now that I’m a bit further from reading the post it angers me even more!