I’m a social, chatty person and will pretty much always be at least a little social with a driver. It’s polite. I’m not the Driving Ms Daisy type of passenger where I can’t be bothered to be polite. There have been many times that I’ve wished I’d not been socail at all in taxis and with Uber drivers. Today was the worst offender EVER!
I asked the guy how long he’d been driving for Uber. This simple question led to him giving me exact date, how much he pays a month for his car in a personal loan interest free and that he lives in his car allowing him to save, but is looking for a van so he can fully stretch out compared to the backseat of his Honda Accura which he was driving us in.
Despite the fact that the man himself and the car were spotless, I’m not gonna lie and tell you that I didn’t have a moment of being really taken aback and grossed out that I was sitting in his bed. After a few moments I realized what I was really feeling was a hard core boundary violation. He put me in an awkward position with an overshare that would make anyone uncomfortable.
I was hiring this man for a professional service. There are socially appropriate things to share with strangers and even more so when you’re in a business setting. Using your personal vehicle without a manager overseeing what happens doesn’t change what is and isn’t appropriate content.
I see value in what he’s doing to meet his needs. Homelessness is extremely difficult and even harder to get out of. He was clean and his car was immaculate so the issue wasn’t him living in his car, it was knowing far too much in an inappropriate setting.