I read an article the other day which gave me a new outlook on Financial Domination or FinDom. I’d only heard of financial domination is terms of a sub turning over their finances to their D-type like in a M/s dynamic or a 1950’s style relationship. I didn’t realize that there are subs out there turned on by being humiliated into giving a D-type money. I know, I know…. I’m late to the ball and wearing last season’s dress, too. Bear with me. I have some thoughts on the topic.
I’ll admit that when I first started reading about paypigs and a woman humiliating a man into giving her money I was kink shaming up a storm in my head. If I’m honest, it wasn’t kink shaming. I was going off the societal standards of acceptable behavior. Then I started to think more about it… hence this post. 😉
Paying a Domme for Her services is quite common. It’s a deeper level of humiliation for a submissive man. Not all Dommes charge and not all male subs are turned on by humiliation… or perhaps not in that particular way.
In my Tindr days I’d ask a guy I was talking to when he was going to buy me dinner. I took more than a few by surprise with my bold invitation. Most of them found it to be turn on and none of them turned me down. Meet my switch side, Lady Jo! Telling a man to buy you dinner isn’t the same as telling him to give you cash for the pleasure of talking to you, but it’s not a far cry for a woman with the inclination to go that route. See? Judgey Jodie is gone.
I quickly saw the link between Domme and sub… the draw for both. It’s a kink in and of itself. It’s one I can totally see Lady Jo enjoying! The more I thought about it, the more I delighted in the thought of that power exchange.