“The Talk” (aka: BDSM Checklist)

Wednesday night after a nice steak dinner and a couple cocktails out, Daddy and i went over our BDSM/kink checklists together. Eye opening indeed. 😉

For the most part there weren’t any shocks for Him where my kinks and interests lie. i’m much more open to talking about, thinking about, dissecting my wants, likes, needs than He is. He’s a doer and not so much curious about why. We’re just wired a little different. 😉 i’m like a sponge eager to soak up every ounce of knowledge i can get… always the curious gemini kitten. lol Good thing kittens have 9 lives!!! *giggles*

There were quite a few things on His list which surprised me. Both interests and His previous experience. Go Daddy!!! Rawr! He’s already got experience in some of the bondage that i’m dying to try. Imagine me singing Marvin Gaye’s Let’s get it on right now. 😉 lol

Actually talking about the particular kinks and how we view them and think about the concept of them opened both of us, mostly me to be honest, to a few things which were on my hard limit list before talked.

Two examples are immobilization and full hoods. Both of these WTF ohhh Hell No on my list… until we actually talked about His ideas. In my experience and way of thinking immobilization was being bound to a point of mummification and fucked through a hole cut in the saran wrap or other binding material. SOOO not my thing! As we talked, He brought up the concept of being immobilized through a hypnotic command. i can totally get behind this!!! Hot AF. To be honest, when i saw full hoods as a go on His list i was stunned and a little put off. i had the vision of Him wanting me in gimp hoods. Uh-uh… NOT gonna happen… not even for Daddy!!! Once again, He started talking about things He’s seen and heard of which are outside of my knowledge base. The idea of a full fur hood is something i might consider. i can’t say yes or no right now because i can’t see it, touch it, or fully imagine it even… but i’m willing to consider it.

We had a VERY important realization between us which has needed to happen for…. well… as long as we’ve been together. i don’t brat for punishment or pain… though i LOVE being pinned down, made to stop my teasing and taunting. That falls at the top of my kink checklist. Physical domination is a big part of where my submission lies. i want and need to know whose in charge and i can’t win the challenge. What came out of this whole discussion more than anything was Daddy wanted…more like needed my permission to be fully the Dom/Master/Daddy He is with me. Though we’ve discussed it before, it came out in a way where we both heard the other’s needs and desires and feelings behind things.

i’m confident that Daddy won’t have a problem with me sharing this… He never has yet with anything i’ve shared. He said straight out that He needed my explicit permission and expressing my desires for the roughness because without it He has trouble going there because of how much He loves me… all the tender, loving, care taking feelings are cock blocking His natural Master desires. He straight out thanked me for being so blunt and telling Him straight out what i desire… and that i see as part of His love for me.

Per usual, Daddy and i learn from each other and grow together when we talk about things… vanilla or kink.

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