DAY 19: How socially connected is your submission? Do you look for others to talk to about your submission for support or networking? Do you go to events or connect through another sort of social grouping either in person or online?

i jumped whole hog into BDSM a few years ago. i was heavily involved on Fet and spent a great deal of time networking, learning, participating in groups and writing challenges, etc. i wanted to know all i could soak up. i’m still much that way. i’ve been wanting to go to munches and gain a face-to-face community of people who live the same lifestyle i do… or similar enough i can be myself. Events happened in our lives which drew both of us off Fetlife. i had no community at all until i began blogging and meeting other kinksters and people of the D/s persuasion.

i had two different roommates who were heavy into the scene. It was fantastic!!! i miss it tremendously. Talk, laugh, learn, shop together, get ideas, laugh at the inappropriate humor that comes with living the lifestyle. i wasn’t isolated in being a little. That last part is the more important of anything. As a little, i am more isolated socially from the rest of the world in being able to talk about who i am and what my interests are. i miss that tremendously.

This is one of the topics which Daddy and i have a bit of difference in our wants and needs. He doesn’t have the desire to be part of a community the same as i do. i won’t go to munches and such alone because i don’t feel safe…and Daddy won’t allow me. i need to re-address this topic with Daddy on a deeper level as more than an interest, but an actual need and find a way to negotiate a middle ground.